“Sorry I’m being so negative.”

If I had a buck for every time I’ve heard that phrase – from myself, from friends, from coaching clients – I’d be doing some pretty luxurious online shopping right now. 🙂

It’s been coming up so much recently that I wanted to hit pause and get a few things off my chest.  Starting with…

#1 You are allowed to EXPERIENCE negative EMOTIONS.

And actually, you are not only allowed to – you SHOULD experience negative emotions.

Negative emotions are simply reactions to your circumstances. 

When your circumstances suck, it’s normal to feel shitty.

Negative emotions are just a message letting you know that something is off.

It doesn’t mean that you’re a negative person or that you need to apologize for feeling bad.  

It simply means you’re a normal person with an appropriate reaction to your sucky circumstance. 

#2 Never expressing negative emotions is a sign of a problem.

People who never express negative emotions are suppressing them and THAT is a problem.  

It’s a problem, because it means the stress is just building up inside without ever being released.

And it’s a problem, because it means you are ignoring whatever is triggering your negative emotions.  

And when you ignore things, they never change. 

So what should you do with negative emotions instead of suppressing them?

#3 Negative emotions are a starting point.

Negative emotions feel bad (obviously!), but you want to let them come anyway.  

Instead of suppressing them, have a good close look at them.

Where are these feelings coming from?  What is causing them? What is the need behind them?

Is there a sucky circumstance that needs to be changed? Or is there an old wound that hasn’t yet healed?

And then what can you do to address the situation?

If you don’t know what to do, how could you find out?  

About the Author

Hi, I'm Anni! I'm a life and career coach for stressed out highly sensitive people. My mission is to help you discover your true self and create a life you ACTUALLY like.

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